How did you meet?
We first met through mutual gaysian friends at a house party in Brooklyn-we barely spoke and Ken did not even remember meeting. It wasn’t until months later when we were both dancing across the room from each other at The Ritz that we actually took notice of each other and the rest is history.
What is one thing that you appreciate about each other?
Jason: To be really specific, I appreciate when Ken brings me breakfast in bed. I appreciate how sweet and thoughtful he is, not only with me but with everyone. He has a natural optimism that is uplifting to be around.
Ken: Jason has the biggest heart and a tender soul. He is always willing to listen and lend a hand whatever the situation may be. I know I will always get good pillow-side chat at the end of every day.
What’s one of the most challenging issues you faced as a couple?
Most recently we moved in together which is now great, but the moving process was at times stressful-we both had to make various arrangements and get everything in order, in addition to balancing work, family obligations and so forth.
Overall, the challenges we face are more so external to our relationship. There may be external dynamics that may come up for each of us individually, but we try to be supportive of each other and we both try to be mindful of how those dynamics may impact how we are with each other.
How does your family react to your relationship?
Our families are generally very supportive. We spend a lot of time with each other’s respective families on a regular basis. Early on in our relationship, Jason went to a family wedding of Ken’s and met a large part of his family very early on. As for the night at The Ritz that sparked our relationship, Jason’s siblings were all present and approvingly witnessed the blossoming of our romance. For now, Jason’s parents are having a difficult time with acceptance.
What traditions do you have as a couple that sustain the relationship?
Friday is our official date night. Eating spicy Szechuan food is another tradition.
What other issues do you think queer API couples face?
Unfortunately, there’s a real lack of visibility and representation of what our relationships as queer APIs look like.
Check out last year’s couple, Kyoung & Danny.
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