DowneTime: No Body, No Body, But You!

DowneTime is a confidential support and discussion group for queer, questioning, and transgender self-identified males in their teens and twenties who identify as Asian/Pacific Islander.

NoBody

When you take a look at yourself in the mirror, how do you feel about your own appearance? Do you feel like you are in your own skin when you see that person in the reflection? From online to in-person, how do we all present our own image to others?

Come join us for a conversation on body image and the ideals of the “perfect male.” Snacks will be provided.

Thursday, April 10, 2014, 6:30pm
NYU
239 Greene Street, 3rd Floor
You may need to show your ID to enter

Please RSVP at DowneTime@gapimny.org

GAPIMNY 35+ Brunch

35plus

We are launching a new group, GAPIMNY 35+, which is meant to be for those who are Gay/Bi/Trans Asian/Pacific Islander men over 35 years old.  Please attend our first event to show your support and help shape the future of GAPIMNY 35+.

Sunday, April 13, 2014, 11:45am
Golden Unicorn
18 E Broadway by Cathrine St
Please RSVP at https://www.artful.ly/store/events/2802

Friday Happy Hour Kickoff

ElixirHappyHour

Pride Committee: Call for Volunteers

Volunteer with GAPIMNY and Q-WAVE to coordinate Pride activities in June (including Queens Pride and Manhattan Pride and the Color Me Queer post-pride party!)  Email gapimny@gapimny.org with PRIDE in the subject line.

Asian American Parents Who Love Their Queer Kids

Hosts:  API Project in PFLAG NYC, NQAPIA, Asian Pride Project, GAPIMNY, QWAVE, and SALGA

This year a number of parents will be sharing their thoughts about how they moved from fear, shame and sadness to unconditionally loving their queer children.  Returning to speak is Marsha Aizumi, author of a recently published book, Two Spirits, One Heart, who will do a short book reading and talk about the lessons she has learned through her journey with her transgender son.

A small group discussion will follow where individuals will have a chance to ask questions, share experiences, or just sit and listen to the thoughts and concerns of others.  It is our hope that participants will walk away with greater understanding, increased awareness and deeper commitment to being courageous, compassionate and connected to those they love.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014, 6pm – 8pm
Metropolitan Community Church of New York
446 W 36th St, bet. 9th and 10th Ave

Light refreshment will be provided

Preview Screening of Front Cover

Come join us for a special preview screening of a rough cut version of the feature film Front Cover.  The film director has asked for community feedback on the film, so there will be a Q&A session afterwards along with a survey.  Space is limited so please fill out this form to RSVP your attendance and we will email you the location. [update: RSVP is closed]

Friday, March 21st, 8pm

Synopsis:  A gay Chinese-American fashion stylist, who disdains everything “Made in China”, is forced to style a ‘fresh-off-the-boat” homophobic Chinese actor for a photo shoot.

Director Bio:  Ray Yeung’s first feature film, CUT SLEEVE BOYS premiered at the Rotterdam International Film Festival and won Best Feature at the Outfest Fusion Festival in Los Angeles.

Your Input For 2014!

The new GAPIMNY Steering Committee will hold a retreat on March 2, and we would love to have your input to inform this upcoming year!  Please help us by filling out this survey:

http://tinyurl.com/gapimnysurvey2014

We have a $20 gift card raffle for your participation.  More info in the survey.

Remember, your constructive feedback is always welcome!  You can always email us, GAPIMNY@gapimny.org.

Ice, Ice Baby

Iceskating

Come glide and spin with fellow friends on the rink. No Olympic tryouts required! Join DowneTime for some wintry fun in Bryant Park!

Afterwards, we’ll grab food at Sophie’s Cuban Cuisine.

Sunday, February 23rd
Ice skating, 3pm – 5pm
Winter Village at Bryant Park
Btwn 40th and 42nd st and Fifth and Sixth Avenue

Admission to the rink is free, but skate rentals will be $15. For more info and a detailed list of the pricing, click here.

Dinner, 5pm – 7pm
Sophie’s Cuban Cuisine
369 Lexington Ave

Please RSVP at downetime@gapimny.org

This event is open to queer, questioning, and transgender self-identified males in their teens and twenties who identify as Asian/Pacific Islander.

Serve the People: The Asian American Movement in New York

Serve

Join DowneTime as we take a trip down activism lane at the Serve the People Exhibition on a tour with curator Ryan Wong. It’s the first exhibition that focuses on NYC as the central hub of Asian American activism in the 1970s.

Afterwards, join us for some delicious pie at Four and Twenty Blackbirds!

This event is open to all GAPIMNY members.

Sunday, March 9th, 1:45pm
Interference Archives
131 8th St Brooklyn, NY 11215

Four and Twenty Blackbirds, 3:30pm
439 3rd Ave Brooklyn, NY 11215

Please RSVP by March 7th at downetime@gapimny.org so we can an accurate headcount for the tour.

On Love: Daniel & Kyoung

DKPhoto:   Kyoung proposed to Daniel on Fifth Avenue, and Daniel said Yes!  Pride Parade, 2013.

A glimpse into one of GAPIMNY’s very own couples, Daniel and Kyoung.

How did you meet?
We had been serving on the GAPIMNY Steering Committee for months but never met face-to-face until a fateful warm June evening. We both put ourselves up on the date auction at Q-WAVE’s Dates & Dumplings fundraising event. Kyoung bid on Daniel, but Daniel brought a friend who was determined to win him for herself. Daniel’s friend ultimately outbidded Kyoung. Kyoung’s turn came later. Daniel was not going to lose Kyoung again so he shot up his hand immediately and going once, going twice, and just like that Daniel won a date with Kyoung. Kyoung took Daniel to see his friend’s play and we’ve been in a relationship ever since.

What is one thing that you appreciate about each other?
Daniel:  I absolutely love Kyoung’s big heart. He is devoted to people whom he loves. He offers whatever he has, whether it is his time, energy or resources, on people who need his help. He will happily cook an amazing meal, give random back massages, and take you out to see a cool show just because. One of my favorite things that he does is that he always leaves the last bite of food for me.

Kyoung:  I appreciate the fact that Daniel’s the complete opposite of me. He’s family-oriented, grounded, accountable, introverted, and in love with all things material and visual. I’m self-centered, explosive, irrational, extroverted, and completely crazy about high ideals and the absurdity of pursuing dreams. If Daniel weren’t part of my life, I would not be able to stay grounded. I appreciate the fact that he still enjoys being with me. I think it’s because deep down, he’s a bit extravagant himself.

What’s one of the most challenging issues you faced as a couple?
Daniel:  Practicing communication based on trust and best intentions. We work to remain open and vulnerable with each other so that our conversations always result in healing and reconciliation. We don’t succeed every time but we always come back to each other and we talk about lessons we learned for the next time.

Kyoung:  I think an initial attraction was the fact that we shared so many similar experiences. We’re both gay, Asian, and immigrants. But now that we’re together, the biggest challenge is to actually get to know each other as individuals: what our stories are, how we got here, and how we think and feel about things, in a way that isn’t about how we identify ourselves, but how we actually are and how we’d like to live.

What issues do you think queer API couples face?
Daniel:  For me, it’s the surprised looks we get from people on the streets and from family. First, everyone assumes we’re straight by default. Second, they definitely expect less that Asians can be gay. Third, which is what we experience most in the circles that we travel now is that people don’t expect gay Asians to end up with each other; they expect us to end up with a White partner. I find it annoying to at this point to tell people, “Yes, my partner is also Asian.”

Kyoung:  I think we’re rare birds, and after growing up as minorities within minorities, it’s hard to stay connected with people who share our experiences and find role models and community to help us shape our lives. This, on the other hand, leads us to face challenges in our day-to-day lives in which we actually have no set criteria, expectations, or guidelines to make decisions, which for me, makes it incredibly challenging because I’m an indecisive person to begin with. So, actually, the biggest issue is to know how to stay together, and move forward, blazing through trails with no landmarks, and trusting everything will be OK if we just follow our hearts.